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Best Methods of Asking a Man Out

Have you ever asked any one out on a date? If your answer is yes, then good for you! If your answer is no, then you might want to question yourself as to why not. As women, we are socially conditioned to the idea that it must be the man who initiates sex and everything to do with it. It has only been in the last few decades that it has become socially acceptable for a woman to take a more active role in sexual activities or anything potentially leading to them. Can you imagine a woman asking a man out in the 1950's? It was unheard of! You were supposed to sit at home by the telephone in the evenings, wondering if anyone would call you up and ask you to go out for an evening. Our grandmothers (and possibly our mothers) had to do this, and if our grandfathers and fathers hadn't invited them out, none of us would even be here at all!

Many women still don't feel comfortable asking a man out on a date as they tend to feel that it ought to be up to men to make the first move. Others may be inhibited by their various religious beliefs. The majority of the time though, it is simply due to the fact that many women are far too shy or self-conscious - fear of rejection is a very powerful thing.

Why should you consider making the first move? Can you afford not to? You might miss out on the opportunity to be with the perfect man for you. It is very likely that the guy you have a crush on has no idea that you are interested in him. He probably hasn't even given it a moment's thought. On the other hand, maybe he is interested, but saw you at the movies with your brother and mistook him for your boyfriend. There are any number of reasons your particular man mightn't be inclined to ask you out despite interest. If you don't take the initiative, you could miss the chance of finding your soul mate.

There are many different ways of going about the business of asking someone for a date, but it first depends on what kind of relationship you have with him already. Let's say it is a co-worker… this one isn't too difficult. Chances are that you are already on friendly terms with the guy to begin with, and you also have the advantage of knowing if he is involved or not. If you are still not sure, you can probably ask a few questions of other co-workers who may be able to provide some insight. This eliminates a lot of guesswork. Once you have established that he is indeed single, there are a few different strategies that you can utilize in pursuit of him. If he works in your immediate work area, or group, perhaps you could suggest meeting him for coffee after work to discuss something that you're working on. This tends to work well. When you meet him, you discuss the issue at hand and then move the conversation on to a more personal note. As you are about to leave, or in the office the next day, tell him that you enjoyed his company and then you can inquire as to whether he would like to meet you for a coffee or drink again some time. At this point be sure to make it clear that you do not mean to meet on account of work.

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